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6 Tips To Give Words of Encouragement For Kids To Give Them Confidence

words of encouragement for kids

Words of encouragement positively impact our self-esteem, confidence, and motivation. This is as true for our children as it is for us adults. 

When we offer encouraging words to kids, we help them develop and strengthen their self-esteem, build confidence, and learn to believe in themselves. 

In this article, we’ve included over 80 phrases and words of encouragement for kids to help you build your young loved one’s confidence and show your support.

The benefits of encouraging kids

It may sound too simple to be true, but consistently offering our young loved ones positive words and phrases makes a huge positive impact on them. 

Children who receive positive messages from early on develop a growth mindset. They’ll remember those messages, sometimes even subconsciously when facing challenges later.

They’ll learn to believe in themselves, recognize their intrinsic worth, and take a healthy and positive view of themselves and the world around them. 

In addition, our kids’ self-esteem and confidence gained from our words will encourage them to embrace challenges, use mistakes and shortcomings as lessons rather than reflections of worth, and share their positive mindset with others.

In a world full of negative feedback and comparison, offering encouraging words to our kids is a beautiful way to support their growth and emotional resilience.

80+ words of encouragement for kids

Below we’ve included over 80 simple but effective words of encouragement to share with your young loved ones and remind them of how much you love and support them.

words of encouragement for kids

Words of encouragement during tasks

  • You’re so creative
  • I see your effort
  • I love to see you learning
  • You’re doing a great job
  • Tell me about your process
  • Your hard work is paying off
  • You’ve got this
  • What was your favorite part about doing that? What was challenging?
  • How did that make you feel?

Words of encouragement during tough times

  • Your best is enough
  • You can always ask me for help when you need it
  • I’m here for you
  • Trust yourself; you’ve got this
  • Nobody is perfect; you don’t have to try to be
  • I believe in you!
  • I love you so much
  • Mistakes are lessons when we learn from them
  • Failure is a step on the path to success
  • You can talk to me about anything
  • You’ve come so far
  • You already seem so grown up
  • You deserve to take a break when you need to
  • A bad today doesn’t have to be a bad tomorrow
  • Some days will be harder than others
  • It’s OK to feel sad from time to time
  • Tell me something good that happened to you today
  • Tell me about how you feel
  • Let’s talk it out
  • You are loved
  • We all have bad days sometimes
  • We’re all here to help each other
  • Tough times don’t last

Inspiring words of encouragement for kids

  • Believe in yourself
  • You are a creator
  • Your voice matters
  • You are valued
  • You are so worthy
  • Every day you inspire me
  • You’re so important to us
  • You can do anything you set your mind to
  • Keep up the great work; your effort is showing
  • I’m so proud of who you are becoming
  • You’re getting smarter every day
  • You’ve got a great life ahead of you
  • You’re stronger than you think
  • Dare to reach for the stars
  • Being different is a gift
  • Great journeys are made by one more step
  • You’re unique; there’s no one else like you!
  • Listen to your heart
  • Your heart knows the way
  • I think you’ll be a leader someday

Words of encouragement for a daughter

  • You’re perfect as you are
  • Never let anyone make you feel like you’re not good enough
  • You’re beautiful inside and out
  • You are so special to me
  • I’m so happy that you’re my daughter
  • You make me proud every day
  • You are my sunshine
  • I’m proud of the woman you are becoming
  • You can be strong when you need to be
  • I’m proud of myself for raising such a smart, caring, wonderful, and compassionate daughter
  • Sometimes the world isn’t fair, but that’s an opportunity for you to make a difference
  • It’s great to be different; far better than following the crowd
  • Trust yourself; you’re wiser than you might know
  • Follow your heart, do what makes you happy
  • You’re an inspiration
  • You remind me of how great life is

Words of encouragement for a son

  • You can do what you set your mind to
  • You’re becoming a great man
  • You’re a natural-born leader
  • It’s always OK to ask for help
  • Crying is a strength, not a weakness
  • Mistakes and failure are key on the path to success
  • No matter what, I love you
  • I see your hard work
  • I respect the effort you make in everything you do
  • I respect you
  • You’re so intelligent
  • If I were your age, I’d be so happy to have a friend like you

words of encouragement for kids

How to use words of encouragement

When it comes to encouragement, how do we make our words stick? Below we’ve included some simple but effective tips for ensuring your words of encouragement make a real impact.

1. Be sincere

Kids are smarter than we typically give them credit for – they can usually tell when you’re sincere and not. They may not express that they know you’re not being false, but they’ll feel it. 

As such, if you’re going to encourage your youngster with these positive phrases and words of encouragement, do so from the heart.

Be sincere and only offer encouraging words that you mean. Your sincerity will shine through and make a lasting impact on your young loved one. 

When they see that you’re sincere, they’re more likely to believe your encouraging words.

2. Offer unconditional encouragement

Suppose you only offer encouraging phrases and words when things are going well. In that case, your child may associate success with your love and appreciation, figuring that things not going well makes them a failure or not worthy of your support.

We all make mistakes and struggle sometimes; this is a prime time to receive encouragement from loving parents. Let your loved one know they always have your encouragement and support and that you’re their unconditional number one fan.

3. Don’t hold back

It may seem like overkill to repeat the same words and positive phrases over and over again. 

Still, years from now, they’ll remember those repeated encouraging words and phrases and will likely adopt a self-view and worldview based around them. So, be consistent and frequent with your positive encouragement.

As mentioned earlier, be sincere, but seek as many opportunities to be sincerely encouraging as possible. That doesn’t mean praising them every second of the day, but being attentive and appreciative of their genuine efforts and progress.

4. Be specific

The examples of words of encouragement above are sweet things to say to your child but don’t stop there. Edit and adapt any of the above to get more specific to your youngster and the situation.

For example, if they played a good game at a football match, don’t just tell them they did a good job; refer to a specific part of the game, such as the goal they scored or almost scored, or how they’re fast, or how passionate they looked while they were playing. 

If they painted a picture, tell them what you like about the picture or what you found interesting, such as their choice of colors or the theme. 

5. Ask questions

Another way to encourage your kids in their hobbies and passions is to ask them how they feel toward themselves, what they think, and what the activity means to them. 

To use painting as an example, you could encourage further artistic exploration by expressing your curiosity about the meaning or symbolism in the painting. You may encourage their athletic interests by asking them what their favorite sport means to them.

6. Don’t encourage comparison

Avoid comparison when it comes to encouraging your youngster. It may seem harmless to you, but if you praise them by criticizing someone else, such as a classmate or a sibling, you instill a sense of separateness, a sense of ‘better or worse.’ 

They may be ‘better’ now, but with that comparative mindset, they’ll consider themselves ‘worse’ if they ever make a mistake and may seek someone ‘better’ to whom they’ll compare themselves.

6. Recognize effort over achievement

Understand that encouragement and praise are not only about achieving a specific goal or milestone. What matters most is not the end goal but their effort toward getting there. 

As such, they learn to recognize and acknowledge their efforts, even if they don’t ‘win.’ Your encouragement and praise of their effort will inspire and instill confidence to keep going, hold their head high, and believe in themselves.

Is there such a thing as too much praise?

Is it possible to praise your youngster too much? In some ways, yes. 

Of course, we should encourage kids with praise and positivity, but it’s also wise to let them learn to encourage and motivate themselves without our intervention. Well-timed and sincere encouragement will echo for longer than shallow and half-hearted praise.

The type of praise and encouragement we offer our kids also matters. 

A 2018 study on ability praise vs. effort praise in children found that:

‘Ability praise may lead children to display a helpless response after failure, including more negative self-cognitions and affect, less persistence, and impaired performance, while effort praise leads children to focus on the process of work and development of learning skills, leading to greater persistence and good performance after setbacks.’

In essence, acknowledging effort, learning, progress, and growth rather than innate ability is better for a child’s mental health and development.

Conclusion

An encouraging word from a loving parent can make your child’s day and set them up for later success. 

The real success here is not just achievement or reaching goals but believing in oneself enough to stay motivated and enjoy the process of things rather than attributing self-worth to abilities or external achievement.

Empowering kids to overcome challenges, think positive things about themselves and others, and enjoy the process rather than focusing too much on the result starts with your recognition of their efforts. 

Pay attention not only to your child’s outcomes but also to the way they achieve those outcomes. The more attentive, encouraging, and supportive you can be around their process, the stronger you build your child’s self-esteem and motivation. 

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